The Temporary Gift of Failure

The microphone is being passed around the room as each of us say what we hope to learn and gain from the course. As the microphone reaches me I say, “I want to be around creative people, and get over the fear of failure.” Roy H. Williams takes the microphone back after the last person states her hopes for the course. Roy looks right at me, with his slightly crazy-wild eyes, and says, “Fear of failure. You must understand that failure is only temporary. Just as success is only temporary.”
My brilliant and beautiful bride sent me to the How To Make Awesome Sauce course at Wizard Academy last summer as a birthday gift. We both had expectations of what I would leave the course with, but neither of us would foresee the impact that lesson would have on our family’s life.
We spend too much time worrying about what might happen if we fail. It becomes the worst-case scenario three fold, leaving reality and real options far behind. I am amazed how much time is spent mentally Tivo-ing the scenes on our internal big screen with what might happen. Extra mental work is required to change the plot so positive outcomes play on the screen instead of embarrassment and ruin. Even crazier is we easily see the spoils of success and yet cannot visualize the success itself.
Believing failure is temporary even before your head knows it to be true changes how you begin each endeavor. It started at the Wizard Academy course by speaking up and asking to take David McInnis’ idea and turn it just a bit. Yes, I would be willing to fail with someone else’s idea.
Then I came home and a friend casually mentioned a website he wished existed. Hmm, I’m willing to risk failure with an idea that is partially mine.
Then my wife finished her PhD. She’s pondering a post doc study or a position that would take us away from current home and family who live here. “Yes!” I say. Let us risk failure as a family with the idea of moving for a year or two and embrace a great adventure. Is adventure not what we are chasing? Are we not risking failure over the reward of successful adventure?




